A friend of mine said to me recently “Wendy, you are weird. You don’t see grief the way other people do. I mean, who sees the gift in grief? Most people see it as this terrible thing – grief is what you have to do when something bad happens!”
For most people grief is this part of life that is dreaded as something inevitable, sad, bad and horrible, something that is bigger than us that takes away ease, happiness and choices in our lives.
What if there was no right or wrong way to grieve? What if there was a lot more choice and possibility in grieving than is recognized? What if grief was an awareness of change, that if you looked at just bit differently, could actually contribute to the expansion of our life and living, and not the diminishment of it?
We grieve for a lot of things - not just the suffering or death of loved ones. We can grieve for or have grief with relationships that don’t work, money problems, changes with our bodies or living situation. All kinds of things.
If there was no right or wrong with grief and grieving, what possibilities and choices could exist for us? If we allowed grief to be less fraught, could we allow more acknowledgement and celebration of the people and things we are grieving for? And could we allow grief to be an invitation to gratitude for what we have had and do have, and to contribute to the awareness of the future we would also like to have beyond grief?
There is a different way of being with grief that is available to us if we are willing to have a different point of view.
Join in a discussion on Blog Talk Radio with my friend and author of “Curing the Incurable”, Liam Phillips, as we talk about tips and tools for dealing with grief and disease from a totally different angle.
Join us live at 1pm EST on Friday 12th June, or listen to the replay here: http://www.blogtalkradio.com/wendy-mulder/2015/06/12/grief-and-disease-done-different
For most people grief is this part of life that is dreaded as something inevitable, sad, bad and horrible, something that is bigger than us that takes away ease, happiness and choices in our lives.
What if there was no right or wrong way to grieve? What if there was a lot more choice and possibility in grieving than is recognized? What if grief was an awareness of change, that if you looked at just bit differently, could actually contribute to the expansion of our life and living, and not the diminishment of it?
We grieve for a lot of things - not just the suffering or death of loved ones. We can grieve for or have grief with relationships that don’t work, money problems, changes with our bodies or living situation. All kinds of things.
If there was no right or wrong with grief and grieving, what possibilities and choices could exist for us? If we allowed grief to be less fraught, could we allow more acknowledgement and celebration of the people and things we are grieving for? And could we allow grief to be an invitation to gratitude for what we have had and do have, and to contribute to the awareness of the future we would also like to have beyond grief?
There is a different way of being with grief that is available to us if we are willing to have a different point of view.
Join in a discussion on Blog Talk Radio with my friend and author of “Curing the Incurable”, Liam Phillips, as we talk about tips and tools for dealing with grief and disease from a totally different angle.
Join us live at 1pm EST on Friday 12th June, or listen to the replay here: http://www.blogtalkradio.com/wendy-mulder/2015/06/12/grief-and-disease-done-different
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